For Your Protection

[Dean & GladysBeaty]

A new way to abduct females.

Please be aware and pass it on.

Sunday around 5 PM I headed into the Target in Philadelphia, in an area of town where crime is rare. As I began walking in, an elderly lady shouted to me from the passenger seat of a car.

"Ma'am, you must help me, help me please, help me please!"
I looked at her and started towards her, when all of a sudden
I remembered an email from my Mom about rapists and abductions using elderly people to lure women.

I paused, memorized the license plate and immediately headed into Target to get a manager to help. While the woman manager went to check it out, I kept a close watch to be sure nothing happened. As she got close the back door of the car flew open and a man jumped out and stuck a gun to her stomach. I yelled out "call 911!" fortunately a policeman had seen the entire thing and was able arrest the two criminals.

By God's grace everyone was all right, although we were both shaken up. I would not have left an elderly person who needed help. If it weren't for the e-mail I had read last week I could have been their victim. So I wanted to pass this along so you would be aware that you really cannot trust anyone these days.
You just never know when something like this could happen.

Always be aware of your surroundings!!!

They also use children to lure their victims!! Please be aware and pass it on to anyone you think this will help.

This was checked with Snopes.com http://snopes.co


The Peacemaker

[Dean & GladysBeaty]

"My husband and I have always went above and beyond the call of duty in keeping our children informed about being aware of their surrounds and taking safety precautions, and not just strangers. All my children have been taught not only awareness but also self defense.
Just recently my 13 year old daughter mentioned that she had on numerous occasions noticed 'the same creepy guy' hanging out around a few of the places her and her friends were! Alarms went off in my head when I questioned her and she said she had never seen him before until this last week, where she and her friends caught sight of him 3 Times! Let me tell you, if I wasn't adament about 'awareness' and 'keeping in a group' and 'staying indoors at night or walking with a crowd if out at night' I tripled my efforts in reminding all my children about the dangers! I have 5 children, 15, 14, 13, 7 & 5, and 2 of the teenagers are girls! I have taught my sons the same as my daughters, but I have to admit I am more emphatic with the girls. My husband and I just finished discussing the need for the older children not only to have emergency cell phones, but also 'Pepper Spray!'"

[Dean & GladysBeaty]

I was given this information and I felt it was important to share with everyone. If the content is not appropriate for our site then please accept my apologies but if it saves someone's life then I am glad I posted it. I also believe as a society and as people in general if you have information that is of importance then we have an obligation to educate each other. So for that purpose please read. This is not a joke!

Through a Rapist's Eyes

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this Information is too important to miss someone.

Please pass it along and share it with your children.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands

Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it?, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,' 'We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana

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The Peacemaker

[Dean & GladysBeaty]

Today we enjoy freedoms that women in other countries only dream about. Unfortunately, although my freedom at the moment is guaranteed, my safety as a woman isn’t. One in three women in America will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime. (That statistic is only based on REPORTED cases of rape. Considering how many go unreported the statistc is probably more like 2 out of 3) Think of yourself and two female relatives or friends. Statistically, one of you is going down.

Frightening? It doesn’t have to be. By learning some of the basic principles of self-defense you can take control of your life and your safety whether you’re at home, in the parking lot of the mall, or in the clutches of an attacker.

There are some very common sense ways to keep yourself safe, things your mom may have drilled into your brain while you were growing up: don’t walk in dark alleys alone, check the backseat of your car before you get in, etc. However, even the best of intentions may not keep you from a dangerous situation, and when you find yourself in that situation your only hope is to be prepared.

Fight or Flight
When confronted by an attacker, you will probably only have a split second to make the decision as whether to run for help or stay and fight. Contrary to your instincts, running away isn’t always the best solution. If there is no where to get help nearby there is a good chance your attacker will catch up with you, at which point it’s futile to try to intimidate him or tell him to “back off” because he already knows you’re afraid. Only run away if there is a way to get help within sprinting distance or if you’ve physically disabled your attacker enough to get away. Otherwise, your best option is to convince your attacker to leave you alone through what you say or through physical force.

Using Your Body as a Weapon
To successfully fight your way out of a dangerous situation you need to know which parts of your body make the best weapons and how to use them. Here are six natural weapons every woman possesses:

Hands – Despite what Hollywood tells us, a punch is not the most effective way to take a person down. For most women, a punch will be ineffective in stopping an attacker and may hurt the victim as much as the perpetrator. Instead, use hands for grabbing and tearing at soft flesh to inflict maximum pain. The underside of the arm and the inner thigh are two good areas to aim for. Tear off an ear or lip. Poke him in the eyes, with your index and middle finger (one on each side of the nose) as fast and hard as you can. There is also a nerve that is very painful between a persons nose and upper lip. Use the side of your hand to hit and RUB THE NERVE AS HARD AS YOU CAN. Cup your hands and hit both ears at the same time with your hands still cupped. This will bust your attackers eardrums.

Elbows – The elbow and forearm make for great weapons against an assailant. The key is to twist at the waist and throw all the weight and power of both your upper and lower body into the hit. When used correctly, the elbow can cause a lot of pain in the ribs, sternum, diaphragm, throat, and groin.

Knees – A woman’s legs are the strongest part of her body. The area around the kneecap can do unthinkable damage when brought up between an attacker’s legs.

Head – The skull is made of very hard bone that can do a lot of damage when brought in contact with the fragile parts of an assailant’s face, particularly the nose. Whether you’ve been grabbed from the front or from behind, slamming your head into an attacker’s face can cause a lot of pain.

Feet – Use the ball of your foot to kick an attacker’s ankle, calf, or Achilles’ tendon or use your heel to stomp down on their instep.

Teeth – It takes no training to know how to bite, and a bite will hurt no matter where it’s placed. One thing to consider: when biting, it’s possible to end up with the attacker’s blood in your mouth, which may carry any of a number of infectious diseases. Use your own judgment to decide whether or not a situation requires you to bite.

Hit ‘em Where it Hurts
To truly end an attack and make a successful escape you’ll need to know which parts of your attacker’s body are the most vulnerable and the most vital. I like to use the acronym “GET” to help me remember, as in, “Get lost creep or I might have to hurt you.”


Groin – Don’t try to kick a man in the groin. There’s a good chance you’ll lose your balance or your attacker will grab your foot or leg. Instead, aim for the assailant’s testicles with your knee or crush or swat this area with your hand or fist. Even a tap in this most sensitive of places can bring an attacker down. When you grab or knee your assailant in the groin, be sure to stand to either side of him and not in front as his first instinct will be to fall forward at the waist.

Eyes – While the eye socket may be sturdy, the eye itself is completely unprotected. If an attacker grabs you it means his hands are occupied. Use one hand to grab the back of his neck and pull him down. With your other hand grind your thumb into the inner corner of his eye. Wrap the rest of your fingers around his ear or skull to stabilize your hand for this attack and dig away.

Throat – The windpipe is a delicate area that can be seriously damaged by a strike or grab. To strike the windpipe, keep your hand open (as if you’re holding a glass), and strike at the front of the throat with full force. Punch through the neck, as if you’re trying to knock his windpipe out the back of his neck. Remember to hit or strike with a strong movement instead of just shoving. To grab a windpipe, move your free hand or hands up your attacker’s throat, sink your thumb and fingers into his voice box or windpipe, and squeeze as if you’re trying to make a fist. Squeeze with all your strength and pull outward, as if you’re trying to rip his windpipe out. This kind of counter-attack can be effective even with very little force.

Practice Makes Perfect
In order for any of these moves to be effective, they need to be practiced in a safe environment. Don’t expect to know or remember what to do in the heat of the moment when you’re feeling afraid. Instead, grab a friend or spouse and practice on them. One word of caution: all of these moves can cause severe damage to the body, even when done with little force. Only practice these techniques in slow motion with no applied force. You’ll still learn to feel comfortable with the actual movements.

DONT MAKE YOURSELF A TARGET

* The number one way to do this is to dress modestly. Plunging necklines and short skirts and belly buttons showing make you a target for rapists. You can be sexy and classy without being trashy. Wear sensible shoes you can run in, especially if your walking more than a block.

*Walk with your head up, looking around. Notice the people around you. Use reflections in glass to watch the people around and behind you.

*Use a purse with a long strap. Wear it slung on one shoulder, across your chest, with the bag hanging on your opposite side as the shoulder. This leaves your hands free, and less likely to be mugged, because the thief will know he won't be able to take your purse as easily.

* If you think your being followed. Turn around and stare down the person you think is following you. They like the element of surprise. They lose it if you know they are following you, and they know you know. Confidence is key. Glare at the person with your best "if looks could kill" glare. Shout at the top of your lungs (so others can hear!) STOP FOLLOWING ME!! Most likely whoever it is will turn and walk away, even if they WERENT actually following you. Any decent guy would probably apologize for scaring you and understand your reaction.

*Don't go places alone at night. If you must, make sure you're friends and family know where you are going, when you should get there, and when you plan to be back. Make sure your cell phone is charged. Call if your going to be late. Put a taxi service and local police numbers on speed dial.

*Wear shoes you can run in. Seriously. If you try to run in heels, you'll break something. Being safe is better than looking cute and getting attacked. You can always carry your dress shoes in your purse and put them on when you get where your going. (Bonus: You can pull a six in heel out of your purse and hit your attacker with it.)

*Don't go out for a jog, walk with BOTH ears plugged with earbuds and loud music. Don't limit one of your most important senses. Listen for footsteps behind you.

*Clubs and bars are full of potential rapists. Don't be naieve. They are all there to "hook up". If you want to go out and have some fun, be smart about it.
--Leave with the people you came with. Don't let your friends go off alone with a guy without getting some info from him: His full name. Then ask for his ID. Copy down his address, brithdate, drivers license number. Ask for the color, make and model, and plates number of his car. Any decent guy will be willing to give up the info, because he knows your just being safe, for you and your friend. If he protests even after you explain your safety policy, he's trouble. Don't let your friend leave with him. Better to be paranoid than a victim.
-- Be aware that the "Date Rape" drugs are put into play when a woman isn't looking. Don't let a guy bring you a drink. Don't take your eyes off your drink. If you do, get a new one. Don't give your drink to anyone and then take it back from them.
--Don't drink to get drunk. Don't mix beer with hard liqour or white and red wine. Eat a peanut butter sandwich before you go out clubbing. The peanut butter coats your stomach lining, so the alcohol doesn't absorb as fast into your bloodstream, the bread will soak it up, so that you won't get drunk as fast. You can relax and have some fun and loosen up without making yourself a target.
-- LEARN TO BE OBSERVANT OF PEOPLE! Practice remembering things about people you see. Then when the time comes, Remember his clothes (the type of fabric, the colors, style) Look for jewelry or watches. Remember what they look like. Remember his hairstyle, apporximate hight and weight. Any distinguishing marks, scars, peircings, tatoos. Notice his eye color, hair color and style, his voice, his facial hair, the shape of his jaw and nose. His eyebrows and shape/size of his mouth. If your alone at a club, go into the rest room and text his description to a friend, along with any other info you know about him. At the very least your friend will be able to give the police a halfway decent description if anything happens. Being careful and paranoid will keep you safe.

2. Items every woman should have in her purse.
*Pepper Spray
*Cell phone with extra battery
*Small Swiss Army knife
*A small flashlight with extra batteries
*A pen and small notebook (write down anything and everything you recall as soon as you can while your memory is fresh. Vehicle plate numbers, Physical descriptions etc.)
*At least a $1 in quarters for a pay phone.
*Q tips (to collect saliva if an attacker kisses or spits on you. Put in baggie.)
*Three snack size ziplock bags (for physical evidance)
*Feminine hygene products (if you've been sexually assaulted or even suspect you have, use them to absorb semen. Put in baggie.)
*A nail care kit (if you scratch or pull hair of an attacker, scrape your nails and put hair and skin cells into baggie.)
*Small disposable or digital camera.
(Get photos of car, the person, the street signs, anything else you think is important.)


When the police come, you can give them the notebook, the baggies, the camera as well as your statement. If a man forces himself on you, and you can keep calm enough to somehow get the guys DNA, the police can find him later. (Hey, who says you can't learn anything from TV? CSI taught me a lot!)


Knowledge is Power
You don’t have to live in fear. While avoiding dangerous situations in the first place by being aware of your surroundings is by far the better choice, knowing how to take down an attacker if you have to is vital to your safety. Study and practice some of the basic moves of self-defense until they feel like second nature to you. Learn to feel your own strength and be comfortable with the way your body moves. Most of all, be mentally prepared to react even in the worst of situations. You might just save your own life someday, but even if you never need to employ these skills, the strength and empowerment you’ll feel as a result are a wonderful bonus.

Brought to you by
The Peacemaker

[Dean & GladysBeaty]

Our hearts go out to women and their families that we see in the newspaper and TV news who are sexually assaulted and some even murdered. What can be done? The News gave some helpful information that I have included below.

The worst possible attitute one can have is:

"It won't happen to me."

Educate yourself and be prepared! This information was on the 10:00 PM News.

* Keep yourself AWARE of your surroundings: Don't use headphones.

* Have a whistle or alarm

* Carry Pepper Spray

* Walk Against Traffic

* Don't Jog alone

* Consider the time of day when more people are around.



You can lessen your chances of being a statistic by

having the right attitude,
learning physical defense tactics
learning how to use weapons to protect yourself.
Attitude

Develop Security Awareness! Focus on a consciousness of your surroundings. Think of possible potential threats to your safety.
Your mind is the greatest defensive weapon. "The more confident you appear, the better off you are." Look at people around you.
Use common sense at all times, such as where you park your car.
Good self-defense programs work to build confidence instead of cowering and giving off an attitude of fear.


Weapons: Intuition and Voice

Do you have a feeling something isn't right?
Show you are confident and able to deal with the situation.


1. The Physical approach:

Focuses on natural weapons of defense.
Despite the superior strength of men, they are not without vulnerable areas.
Women learn to strike at the groin, Adam's apple, the eyes and ears.
Learn effective blocking strategies.
2. Model mugging

This nationwide program is unique as it uses men to act out situations such as mugging or assault.
The Idea behind this approach is to teach women how to react quickly and appropriately with their bodies and voices when they are in danger.
Women are taught to fend off their mock attackers while they learn to stay calm.
3. Learn to use a weapon

There are programs that teach the effective use of defensive weapons such as Pepper Spray or firearms.

AWARE (Arming Women Against Rape & Endangerment) offers courses at low rates

AWARE believes that the best protection you can have is prevention.

Use of Pepper Spray

When something tells you to act: Time is of greatest importance.
Don't pull out your spray until you are ready to use it! The more unexpected - the more successful you will be.
Make sure you will hit your attacker right in the face.
What you want to do is surprise him and stop him before he can react.
As you Shout "Stop," Raise your arm so his attention is on that hand, then bring the spray up, aim and shoot, back away!
Get away, (far away) and call 911!
AWARE's motto, "Confidence Comes from Competence."


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